Agreed ... the "blowhard factor" is the most valued characteristic of the typical WNY fan.
The team needs a leader. Someone who can turn the blowhard/buddy volume knob as needed, but whose fundamental respect and credibility is grounded in: "let me explain to you exactly what we did in [former Stanley Cup winner], and how I'm going to make that happen for you guys here if you do your part." Someone who can inspire some true buy-in, enough buy-in that even if that coach were out for a game or two, his vision would be peer-enforced and self-policed. I believe that every organization eventually takes on the personality of its (genuine, real-deal) leadership. And right now, this team does seem to look a lot like Housley, Botterill, and Pegula.
Joel Q might work for us, but seems late we're late to that party.